Handling disappointment and frustration

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  1. Teaching juniors in any field, including software engineering, can sometimes be challenging and lead to feelings of disappointment or frustration.

  2. This could stem from a variety of issues such as unmet expectations, lack of progress, communication barriers, or different learning styles.


  • Set Clear Expectations: Clearly communicate your expectations regarding workload, deadlines, and learning outcomes.

  • Maintain Open Communication: Encourage juniors to ask questions and express any difficulties they might be experiencing.

  • Practice Patience: Understand that learning is a process and everyone has a unique learning curve.

  • Professional Development: Consider pursuing training in emotional intelligence or teaching methodologies to better manage your expectations and reactions.

Effective use

An effective resolution involves setting clear expectations, maintaining open communication, practicing patience, and pursuing professional development. Through these measures, one can transform their feelings of frustration into constructive feedback and supportive guidance for their juniors.


Reacting impulsively to feelings of frustration, failing to communicate expectations effectively, or not addressing your feelings can exacerbate the situation. It could lead to a stressful learning environment, strained relationships, and hindered learning progress.


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  • Kolb, D. A. (2014). Experiential learning: Experience as the source of learning and development. FT press.

  • Whitmore, J. (2017). Coaching for performance: The principles and practice of coaching and leadership. Nicholas Brealey Publishing.

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